Emotional eating counselling

Struggling with emotional eating isn’t about willpower, it’s about what food is doing for you emotionally. I offer online emotional eating counselling across Australia (English and Russian), using evidence based ACT and CFT approaches instead of diets or rules.”

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You’re not hungry. But you’re in the kitchen anyway, standing in front of the fridge after a hard day, eating past the point of fullness, using food to get through something that has nothing to do with food.

If this feels familiar, you’re not broken. And you’re not alone.

Emotional eating is one of the most common and most misunderstood patterns I work with. It’s not a character flaw, and it’s not solved by more willpower or a stricter plan. It’s a signal. And once you understand what it’s signalling, everything starts to shift.

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It’s never really about the food. It’s about finding another way to soothe what hurts.

About this practice

Yana Madorski is a Master’s-qualified counsellor working with emotional eating, body image and anxiety online across Australia and internationally.

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Professional credentials:

Master of Counselling
Diploma of Counselling
Australian Counselling Association Level 2 Registered Counsellor
Bupa registered provider
Counselling for Eating Disorders specialised training
Eating Disorders Clinical Foundations training
Psychiatry for counsellors training
Trauma-informed practice
Bilingual: sessions available in English and Russian
Online via secure telehealth
Available across Australia and internationally

Therapeutic approaches I draw on:

ACT — Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
CFT — Compassion-Focused Therapy
Somatic awareness — body-based approaches to emotional regulation
Polyvagal Theory — nervous system-informed practice (Stephen Porges)
Mindful Eating — non-diet, present-moment relationship with food and hunger cues
Anti-diet philosophy — informed by the work of Marsha Herrin & Judith Matz
Person-centred counselling

What is emotional eating

Emotional eating is using food to manage, soothe, numb or avoid an emotional experience rather than to satisfy physical hunger. It’s eating in response to a feeling, not a physical need.

That might look like reaching for food when you’re stressed, lonely, overwhelmed, bored, anxious, or even happy. It can happen automatically before you’ve even registered that you’re doing it.

Emotional eating isn’t the same as enjoying food, celebrating with food, or eating for comfort occasionally. It becomes a concern when it’s the primary, or only, way you know to cope with difficult feelings.

Signs of emotional eating

You might recognise emotional eating in yourself if:

You eat when you’re stressed, anxious, bored or upset — not when you’re hungry
Food feels like the fastest or most reliable way to feel better in the moment
You often eat past fullness without noticing, or notice only after
You feel guilt, shame or frustration after eating, not satisfaction
You find yourself thinking about food a lot, especially during difficult moments
You eat differently in private than in public
You’ve tried many approaches to change your eating and nothing has stuck long-term
You struggle to tell the difference between physical hunger and emotional hunger, what researchers call interoceptive awareness.

If several of these feel true, that’s worth exploring not with judgement, but with curiosity.

What is food doing in those moments?

Here is an honest list — one that many people recognise immediately:

Distraction — from a feeling, a situation, a thought you don’t want to sit with
Soothing — loneliness, anxiety, grief, shame, overwhelm
Reward — “I’ve had a hard day, I deserve this”
Escape — a moment where nothing else exists except this
Rebellion — against rules, expectations, restriction (“I’m not allowed this” makes it more compelling, not less)
Control — when everything else feels out of control, food is something you can decide
Comfort — a physical sensation of warmth, fullness, pleasure in a moment that feels cold or empty
Company — eating as a ritual, a presence, when human connection isn’t available

None of these are shameful. They are all completely human. The question isn’t “why do you eat this way”, it’s “what do you need, that food is currently providing?”
That’s exactly where counselling begins.

Emotional eating vs binge eating

What’s the Difference? These two patterns are related but distinct, and it’s worth understanding the difference.

Emotional eating

Eating in response to emotions rather than hunger — can involve any amount of food. The driver is the emotional state, not the quantity consumed. Many people eat emotionally without it meeting clinical criteria for binge eating.

Binge eating

Eating a significantly large amount of food in a short period, often with a sense of loss of control, followed by distress. Binge eating disorder (BED) is a recognised clinical condition. Emotional eating can be a driver of binge eating, but not all emotional eating becomes a binge.

Both patterns respond well to the same underlying work — understanding the emotional function of eating and building other ways to meet those needs.

Why emotional eating happens

Food works. That’s the honest starting point.

Eating activates the brain’s reward system — it’s genuinely soothing in the short term. If you grew up in an environment where food was used for comfort, celebration or control, those associations become deeply embedded. If difficult emotions were minimised or unsafe to express, food may have become the most available way to regulate.

Over time, the pattern becomes automatic. You don’t decide to eat emotionally, it just happens, often before you’ve even noticed the feeling underneath.

This push and pull between wanting comfort and wanting control is at the heart of emotional eating, and it’s not a willpower problem. It’s a nervous system problem.

This isn’t weakness. It’s a learned strategy that once made sense — and that can be gently, carefully unlearned.

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It’s not about willpower

If you’ve ever eaten past the point of fullness and then felt ashamed, you know the cycle. You promise yourself tomorrow will be different. And then it isn’t.

This isn’t a character flaw. It’s not weakness. When your nervous system is overwhelmed, it looks for ways to regulate. Food works quickly, reliably, without judgment. Your brain learned this early.

The problem was never that you lack discipline. The problem is that no one taught you what was actually happening inside.

The real issue isn’t what you’re eating

Research shows that people who struggle with emotional eating are often caught not in food itself, but in the anxiety around food. The rules. The self-monitoring. The guilt after.

What looks like “out of control eating” is usually a nervous system doing its best under pressure. The preoccupation with food (the mental chatter, the cravings, the replaying of what you ate) is your mind trying to manage something it doesn’t have better tools for yet.

That’s what we work on together.

Diet culture made this harder

We grew up learning there are right foods and wrong foods. Right bodies and wrong bodies. Right reasons to eat and wrong ones.

Eating when you’re emotional breaks the rules. And breaking the rules means shame.

But those rules were never yours. They came from a system that profits from your self-doubt.

Part of our work together is separating your own voice from that noise and building a relationship with food that actually belongs to you.

How counselling can help

Counselling for emotional eating doesn’t involve meal plans, food rules, or tracking. It works at the psychological level, which is where the pattern actually lives.

Understanding the function

We start by getting curious about what eating is doing for you. What feeling comes just before? What does food provide in that moment: comfort, numbing, control, reward? Once we understand the function, we can begin to meet that need in other ways too.

Building emotional literacy

Many people who eat emotionally have difficulty identifying, tolerating or expressing emotions. Part of the work is building that capacity — not so you stop feeling, but so feelings become less overwhelming and less in need of managing through food. 

Somatic and body-based work

Emotions live in the body. Drawing on somatic awareness and polyvagal theory, we also work with what happens physically — the sensations, the tension, the urges — so that you have more than one way to respond when the feeling arrives.

Values-led change

Using ACT and CFT frameworks, we build motivation from the inside, from what matters to you, the life you want to live, rather than from shame, fear or external rules. Change that comes from values tends to be more sustainable than change that comes from discipline. 

Reducing shame

Shame after eating emotionally often fuels the next episode. A non-judgemental space to understand what happened interrupts that loop.

Ready to understand what’s underneath?

You don’t need to have it all figured out before you reach out. That’s what this work is for.

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Who this is for

You eat to cope with stress, overwhelm, loneliness or anxiety
You eat to cope with stress, overwhelm, loneliness or anxiety
You eat to cope with stress, overwhelm, loneliness or anxiety
You’ve tried “eating healthier” or “stopping emotional eating” and it hasn’t lasted
You know what you “should” do but can’t seem to do it consistently
You want to understand the pattern, not just suppress it
You’re looking for support that doesn’t involve another diet or food plan

Common questions

QUESTIONS?

If you’re feeling uncertain about beginning counselling, please get in touch. We can talk through your questions so you can decide at your own pace.

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